Sustainable Excellence Xtras #107 - The Importance Of Not Being A Gossip

Why do you like to gossip?

Some research has found that people are motivated to engage in gossip because it creates a deeper bond with the group they are associated or to exchange information.

Other research states that we get a dump of the hormone oxytocin, which is connected to positive emotions when we gossip. 

Some researchers even argue that gossip is an evolutionary tactic that helped our ancestors survive.  

The downside of spreading negative information about another person is that it is almost always motivated by jealousy or low self-esteem. Spreading unsubstantiated rumors, bad information, or painting someone in an unfavorable light makes people feel better about themselves.

Here are 6 steps to help you stop gossiping from an article in Yoga Journal (Kempton 9/2/2021):

1. Choose a gossip buddy - Agree to discuss rumors or negative information with only one person. a gossip buddy will allow you to practice restraint when discussing another person.

2. Catch yourself - Learn to notice when you are about to make a mean comment. If one slips, apologize.

3. Notice the aftertaste - Become aware of how you feel and your body language when you engage in gossip.

4. Just say no - Turn down opportunities to engage in gossip with friends or members of a group. Ask them, tactfully, to talk about something else because you are trying to break the negative gossip habit.

5. Don't rush to judgment - When someone spreads gossip to you, question if it is true. Like everything else, determine if the information is accurate.  

6. Try a one-day gossip fast - Commit to not talk about anyone else for one day. Determine where you have difficulty and understand the feelings inside you when you deny yourself the urge to gossip.

Making your conversations with other people more top-of-mind, more disciplined, and more measured will help you break the gossip habit and be more empathetic toward others.

Please watch the short video below to learn more about the importance of not spreading gossip.