Please check out my latest audio recording from the All Great Things Podcast With Anouk Gevers. You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the AUDIO PODCASTS & RADIO INTERVIEWS button at the top of this page, then click on the PODCAST INTERVIEWS tab and scroll down and click on the All Great Things Podcast tab.
Please check out my latest audio recording from the Think Outside The Lines Podcast With Shawn Feeney. You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the AUDIO PODCASTS & RADIO INTERVIEWS button at the top of this page, then click on the PODCAST INTERVIEWS tab and scroll down and click on the Think Outside The Lines Podcast tab.
Please check out my latest YouTube recording from the Finding The Unicorn In You Podcast with Dr. Jamie Gabriel Raygoza. You can watch the podcast by clicking on the PODCAST & SPEAKING VIDEOS button at the top of this page and scroll down and click on the Finding The Unicorn In You Podcast tab.
Why do you like to gossip? Some research has found that people are motivated to engage in gossip because it creates a deeper bond with the group they are associated or to exchange information. Other research states that we get a dump of the hormone oxytocin, which is connected to positive emotions when we gossip. Some researchers even argue that gossip is an evolutionary tactic that helped our ancestors survive. The downside of spreading negative information about another person is that it is almost always motivated by jealousy or low self-esteem. Spreading unsubstantiated rumors, bad information, or painting someone in an unfavorable light makes people feel better about themselves. Here are 6 steps to help you stop gossiping from an article in Yoga Journal (Kempton 9/2/2021): 1. Choose a gossip buddy - Agree to discuss rumors or negative information with only one person. a gossip buddy will allow you to practice restraint when discussing another person. 2. Catch yourself - Learn to notice when you are about to make a mean comment. If one slips, apologize. 3. Notice the aftertaste - Become aware of how you feel and your body language when you engage in gossip. 4. Just say no - Turn down opportunities to engage in gossip with friends or members of a group. Ask them, tactfully, to talk about something else because you are trying to break the negative gossip habit. 5. Don't rush to judgment - When someone spreads gossip to you, question if it is true. Like everything else, determine if the information is accurate. 6. Try a one-day gossip fast - Commit to not talk about anyone else for one day. Determine where you have difficulty and understand the feelings inside you when you deny yourself the urge to gossip. Making your conversations with other people more top-of-mind, more disciplined, and more measured will help you break the gossip habit and be more empathetic toward others. Please watch the short video below to learn more about the importance of not spreading gossip. One of the biggest reasons people never even begin to chase their goals is because those goals seem too big and overwhelming.
Due to the size of our goals, we don't know where to begin to start to achieve them. Here are a few other reasons people fail to chase their dreams: 1. They are waiting for the right time. While timing is important in many aspects of life and success, there will never be "the perfect time." There will always be one more thing to do or a desire to wait for a more perfect day. As Catherine Pulsifer said, " Don't live your life regretting yesterday. Live your life so that tomorrow you won't regret today." 2. They are afraid of failing. While receiving approval from others increases our self-esteem, most of the people who would criticize you for failing have never even attempted the things you have failed. As Teddy Roosevelt said in his famous essay, The Man In The Arena, "It's not the critic that counts...The credit belongs to the man...who errs, who comes short again and again because there is no effort without error..." 3. They don't have a clear idea of what their dreams look like. Being vague about what your dreams look like is a surefire way to ensure they never materialize. If you can see your dream in your mind's eye, you can make it a reality. If you can't picture it in your mind, no matter how hard you work, it will never come to fruition. Instead of trying to obtain the entirety of your goal all at once, why not consider using the 1% Rule? The 1% Rule states that each day you will commit to getting 1% better or 1% closer to your dreams. If you break your dreams or goals down into smaller, more manageable portions, you'll be more likely to obtain what you want. For example, if you want to be the top sales producer at your company, how would that look if you applied the 1% Rule? If you committed to getting 1% better each day, at the end of the month, you'd be 30% better than when you started, and 90% better at the end of the quarter. Breaking any task or objective down into smaller manageable portions and working to consistently improve every day, will ultimately help you control the size, fear, and overwhelming feelings that prevent people from starting to chase their dreams. Please leave me a comment about your thoughts on how people can overcome the things preventing them from realizing their dreams. Please check out my latest YouTube recording from the Superchargers Podcast with Daniel Thomas. You can watch the podcast by clicking on the PODCAST & SPEAKING VIDEOS button at the top of this page and scroll down and click on the Superchargers Podcast tab.
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Author & SpeakerTerry is a sought after speaker who believes in the power of a story to motivate, inspire, and help others lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives. By combining his twelve-year cancer journey with his diverse business, athletic coaching, and hostage negotiating expertise, he delivers compelling yet relatable presentations for conferences, on-line events, panels, meetings, and seminars. Archives
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