Are you someone willing to compromise or are you someone who expects to get everything you want? A compromise is when parties give up a portion of their demands in exchange for being able to get a deal done. Both sides give a little and both sides take a little. But can you (or should you) compromise if the items being discussed impact your beliefs or values? In a 2023 PBS poll, 70% of Americans said they want federal government officials to compromise and find solutions to problems impacting our nation, while 28% of Americans said they want the nation's lawmakers to stand on their principles, even if it creates political gridlock. In 1850, the "great compromiser, " Kentucky Senator Henry Clay, proposed a set of measures around the issue of slavery, that were passed by Congress. Because of these compromised measures, the secession of the Southern states was postponed for a decade. The Constitutional Convention of 1787, which eventually produced the U.S. Constitution, was called "a bundle of compromises" because the delegates had to compromise on five major points known as: 1. The Great Compromise - This decided there would be two chambers in Congress, the Senate (which would be based on equal representation) and the House of Representatives (which would be based on population). 2. The Three-Fifths Compromise - Provided that every five slaves would be counted as three individuals in terms of representation. 3. Commerce Compromise - The compromise mandated that tariffs were only allowed on imported goods and not exported goods from the U.S. 4. The Slave Trade Compromise - Under this compromise, Northern states agreed to wait until 1808 before Congress would be able to ban the trade of enslaved people. 5. The Electoral College Compromise - The election of the President was done through the creation of the Electoral College which is made up of electors roughly proportional to the population. Compromise has been a standard of getting things accomplished since the beginning of our constitutional republic. Since there are as many varied opinions as there are people, concessions need to be made so common ground can be achieved. Please watch the video below to hear about how one of our presidents used compromise to things accomplished and leave me a comment about your thoughts on the importance of compromise in your daily life. Would you say you are a confident person?
Does the answer to that question depend on the circumstances under which you find yourself? Maybe you are confident presenting to your team but not very confident presenting to senior management. Shortly after I started my first job out of college, I was handed a binder and told to give the speech contained within the binder that was supposed to be given by the Senior Vice President of Marketing to a group of bankers. Needless to say, I had no confidence in my ability since I'd never seen the speech, and, as you can imagine, I bombed it. According to Steve Magness, author of the book, Do Hard Things, we get confidence wrong. Magness believes that real confidence lies in understanding who you are and what you are capable of doing. It is being vulnerable, not delusional. Confidence is attempting difficult things, sometimes failing, but seeing where our deficiencies are and going back to work on those inadequacies. Magness offers these five keys to developing confidence: 1. Lower the bar - Confidence doesn't come from doing the impossible. It comes from. It comes from getting clear on what you are capable of doing. 2. Raise the floor, not just the ceiling - Performance is about how we perform on our average days. You don't raise the floor by developing an unrealistic view of yourself, you do it by taking a hard look at where you are in the moment. 3. Shed perfection and embrace who you are - If we can come to terms with who we are, warts and all, we slowly disarm our insecurities and can handle criticism more easily. 4. Trust your training and yourself - To gain confidence, put in the work from a place of growth, not fear. 5. Develop a quiet ego - Truly brave and intelligent people don't need to tell you how good they are. They just know it. When you are overconfident your brain knows it and tries to protect you from failure. Confidence is quiet. Insecurity is loud. Leave me a comment about what true confidence looks like in your life. Please check out my latest YouTube recording from the Conquering Life And Cancer Livestream with Big Northern Bear. You can watch the podcast by clicking on the PODCAST & SPEAKING VIDEOS button at the top of this page and scroll down and click on the Conquering Life And Cancer Livestream tab.
Please check out my latest YouTube recording from the First&Last Hit Show Podcast with Mac and Andy. You can watch the podcast by clicking on the PODCAST & SPEAKING VIDEOS button at the top of this page and scroll down and click on the First&Last Hit Show Podcast tab.
Please check out my latest audio recording from The Opinionistics Podcast With Peter Clemenson. You can listen to the podcast by clicking on the AUDIO PODCASTS & RADIO INTERVIEWS button at the top of this page, then click on the PODCAST INTERVIEWS tab and scroll down and click on The Opinionistics Podcast tab.
How do you get people to support a new idea? Do you just tell them that is the new way you expect things to happen, or is there a process to get people to buy into your new idea? Most people would agree that to get people to ensure the success of a new idea or procedure, you want to get the support and collaboration of those impacted by something new. Here are three approaches to get people to buy into a new idea (Kitch, Bryan. 5 Strategies To Get Buy-in For New Ideas. Mural. April 10, 2023. https://www.mural.co/blog/get-buy-in-for-ideas): 1. Build a compelling case - Make sure the stakeholders understand the value and potential of the idea. To do this make sure you have identified the specific problem, understand how you will measure success, and have a benchmark you can compare your results against. 2. Understand your audience - Understanding the perspective of your audience will determine the best way to present the idea. Providing concrete examples of how an idea has been effective elsewhere or using data to explain your argument, will help the stakeholders understand your thinking. 3. Anticipate and overcome resistance - By understanding the needs and concerns of the stakeholders you can present factual and detailed responses to any objections. This will help to create a more collaborative environment. By seeking support for a new idea you create an underpinning of assurance and commitment that will lead to success and lay the groundwork for carrying out future new ideas. Please check out the video below for additional ways to successfully implement new ideas and leave me a comment regarding your thoughts on how to go about presenting new ideas. |
Author & SpeakerTerry is a sought after speaker who believes in the power of a story to motivate, inspire, and help others lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives. By combining his twelve-year cancer journey with his diverse business, athletic coaching, and hostage negotiating expertise, he delivers compelling yet relatable presentations for conferences, on-line events, panels, meetings, and seminars. Archives
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