Scoreboard for a Winner
A winner takes big risks when he has much to gain. A loser takes big risks when he has little to gain and much to lose.
A winner focuses. A loser sprays.
A winner says, “Let’s find out.” A loser says, “Nobody knows.”
When a winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong.” When a loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
A winner isn’t nearly as afraid of losing as the loser is secretly afraid of winning.
The winner works harder than the loser and has more time. A loser is always too busy to do what is necessary.
A winner takes a big problem and separates it into smaller parts, so that it can be more easily manipulated. A loser takes a lot of little problems and rolls them together until they become unsolvable.
A winner goes through a problem. A loser goes around it and never gets past it.
A winner makes commitments. A loser makes promises.
A winner shows he’s sorry by making up for it. A loser says, “I’m sorry,” but does the same thing the next time.
A winner knows what to fight for and what to compromise on. A loser compromises on what he shouldn’t and fights for what isn’t worth fighting about.
A winner learns from his mistakes. A loser learns only not to make mistakes by not trying anything different.
A winner says, “I’m good, but I’m not as good as I ought to be.” A loser says, “I’m not as bad as a lot of other people.”
A winner tries never to hurt people, and does so rarely. A loser never wants to hurt people intentionally, but does so all the time without even knowing it.
A winner listens. A loser just waits until it is his turn to talk.
A winner would rather be respected than liked, although he would prefer both. A loser would rather be liked than respected, and is even willing to pay the price of mild contempt for it.
A winner is sensitive to the atmosphere around him. A loser is sensitive only to his own feelings.
A winner feels strong enough to be gentle. A loser is never gentle. He’s either weak or a petty tyrant by turns.
A winner respects those who are superior to him and tries to learn something from them. A loser resents those who are superior and tries to find kinks in their armor.
A winner explains, and a loser explains away.
A winner feels responsible for more than his job. A loser says, “I only work here.”
A winner says, “There ought to be a better way to do it!” A loser says, “That’s the way it’s always been done.”
A winner paces himself. A loser has only two speeds, hysterical and sluggish.
A winner knows the verb “to be” must precede the verb “to have.” A loser thinks that enough of the verb “to have” is what makes a verb “to be.”
Author & Motivational Speaker
Terry is a sought after speaker who believes in the power of a story to motivate, inspire, and help others lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives. By combining his eleven-year cancer journey with his diverse business, athletic coaching, and hostage negotiating expertise, he delivers compelling yet relatable presentations for conferences, on-line events, panels, meetings, and seminars.