The Winner is always part of the answer;
the Loser is always part of the problem.
The Winner always has a program;
the Loser always has an excuse.
The Winner says, “Let me help you”;
the Loser says, “That’s not my job.”
The Winner sees an answer for every problem;
the Loser sees a problem for every answer.
The Winner says, “It may be difficult but it's possible”; the
Loser says, “It may be possible but it's too difficult.”
When a Winner makes a mistake, he says, “I was wrong”;
when a Loser makes a mistake, he says, “It wasn’t my fault.”
A Winner makes commitments;
a Loser makes promises.
Winners have dreams;
losers have schemes.
Winners say, “I must do something”;
losers say, “Something must be done.”
Winners are a part of the team;
losers are apart from the team.
Winners see the gain;
losers see pain.
Winners see possibilities;
losers see problems.
Winners believe in win/win;
losers believe for them to win someone has to lose.
Winners see the potential;
losers see the past.
Winners are like a thermostat;
losers are like thermometers.
Winners choose what they say;
losers say what they choose.
Winners use hard arguments, but soft words;
losers use soft arguments, but hard words;
Winners stand firm on values but compromise on petty things;
losers stand firm on petty things but compromise on values.
Winners follow the philosophy of empathy:
“Don’t do to others what you don’t want them to do to you”;
losers follow the philosophy,
“Do it to others before they do it to you.”
Winners make it happen;
losers let it happen.
“The trouble with most people is that they think with their hopes or fears or wishes rather than with their minds.” - Walter Duranty
Can you push past the delusions to obtain your reality?
The Two Wolves
A Native American grandfather was talking to his grandson about how he felt. He said, "I feel as if I have two wolves fighting in my heart. One wolf is the vengeful, angry, violent one. The other wolf is the loving, compassionate one." The grandson asked him, "Which wolf will win the fight in your heart?" The grandfather answered: "The one I feed."
“A right is not what someone gives you; it’s what no one can take from you.” - Ramsey Clark
Of all the rights you possess, which ones would you fight to keep?
There's a little fellow named Junior who hangs out at the neighborhood grocery store, Tommy's. Tom doesn't know what Junior's problem is, but the other boys like to tease him. They say he's "two bricks shy of a load." And to prove it, they sometimes offer Junior his choice between a nickel and a dime. Junior always takes the nickel, they say, because it's bigger.
One day, after Junior grabs the nickel, Tom takes him aside and says, "Junior, those boys are making fun of you. They think you don't know a dime is worth more than a nickel. Are you grabbing the nickel because it's bigger, or what."
Junior replies, "Well if I took the dime, they'd quit doing it."
From: Leadership - August 22, 2000
“People all over the nation are starved for honesty and common sense.” - Ben Carson
As a leader, do you provide what people want or do you provide what they need?
In 2000, the publication Leadership, asked readers to use the letters in L-E-A-D-E-R-S-H-I-P to define the essence of a good leader. Here is part one submitted by Brent W. Stephens of Texas:
Logic: Deal with every issue logically and rationally.
Evaluate: Look at all possible alternatives before making a decision.
Attitude: Maintain a positive attitude at all times.
Dynamic: Be bold and courageous because people are looking at you to lead.
Expressive: Create a visible picture when you communicate.
Results-oriented: People are more likely to follow you if they see consistent results.
Style: Be an individual; don't mimic another.
Health-conscious: A healthy, active body leads to a healthy, active mind.
Inspire: When the going gets tough, inspire confidence.
Persistent: Show your willingness to get up and keep at it until you succeed.
How do you define quality leadership?
“I would rather attempt to do something great and fail than to attempt to do nothing and succeed.” - Robert H. Schuller
Can you treat the "imposters of failure" and success the same?
“We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers – but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you want to change you are the one who has got to change” - Katharine Hepburn
Who is responsible for your successes and failures?
“Guard within yourself that treasure kindness. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness.” - George Sand
Is your heart open to the kindness of others?
“Knowledge will give you power, but character will give you respect.” - Bruce Lee
What does the respect you get say about your character?
Last week I posed the question, what makes your job fulfilling? With 288 of you responding, here are the top ten answers:
“Gold medals aren’t really made of gold. They are made of sweat, determination, and a hard to find alloy called guts.” - Dan Gable
What is your mettle made of?
Having the Courage to Follow Your Heart
Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
Author & Motivational Speaker
Terry is a sought after speaker who believes in the power of a story to motivate, inspire, and help others lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives. By combining his eleven-year cancer journey with his diverse business, athletic coaching, and hostage negotiating expertise, he delivers compelling yet relatable presentations for conferences, on-line events, panels, meetings, and seminars.