How often do you lie, tell a half-truth, or "stretch the truth" on a daily basis?
Would you be surprised to learn the average college student lies in about a third of their conversations and adults are dishonest in about 20% of their interactions?
Extroverts lie more than introverts, 81% of online dating profiles deviate from the truth, and approximately 82% of all lies go undetected.
According to the Federal Trade Commission, in 2022, scam victims lost more than $8.8 billion to fraud (lying), which is a more than 30% increase from 2021.
And despite all the books and courses you can read or take that will educate you on how to spot someone who is lying, we only detect a liar about half of the time.
Here are ten, scientifically-based ways, to spot a liar (according to an article on the Forensic Education Blog):
1. The person has a change in speech pattern.
2. They use non-congruent gestures.
3. Not enough is said.
4. Too much is revealed.
5. There is an unusual rise or fall in vocal tone.
6. They make direct eye contact 70% of the time.
7. They put their hand over their eyes or mouth.
8. There is excessive fidgeting.
9. Finger-pointing or gesturing toward someone else.
10. Self-identifying as a "good liar."
While the ten signs listed above are based on quantitative and qualitative research, no single technique or sign should be used to determine if someone is lying.
One of the best ways to decide if someone is lying is to be nice. Getting people to like you will cause them to open up and talk. Talking too much may cause them to make a mistake that reveals deception. Don't accuse people, just be curious and ask questions.
Please leave me a comment about your thoughts regarding being deceptive in your daily encounters.
Author & Motivational Speaker
Terry is a sought after speaker who believes in the power of a story to motivate, inspire, and help others lead their uncommon and extraordinary lives. By combining his eleven-year cancer journey with his diverse business, athletic coaching, and hostage negotiating expertise, he delivers compelling yet relatable presentations for conferences, on-line events, panels, meetings, and seminars.