Thought for the Day:
"The first great gift we can bestow on others is a good example." - Morell
Would people say you set a good example?
“Some people give up their designs when they have almost reached their goal, while others obtain a victory by exerting, at the last moment, more vigorous effort than ever before.” - Herodotus
Why would you ever stop something you know is in your best interest?
Dealing With A Scary World
by Daily Stoic
In Aaron Thier’s novel, The World Is A Narrow Bridge, there is a scene where Eva and Murphy, the two young prophets of the god Yahweh, are sent on a mission that terrifies them. As they begin the mission, Eva and Murphy are approached by Satan, who has been sent by Yahweh, to give them their final instructions. After Satan gives the instructions, he begins to leave for his next mission:
“You have to go so soon?” says Eva. “Right away?”
She looks devastated. Murphy, too, is unhappy. Satan frowns and chews on his lip. He doesn’t like to leave them like this.
“I’ll teach you a trick,” he says. “I’ll teach you an incantation that will protect against despair. If things are dark, and I’m not around to help, you can repeat it a few times and it’ll help.
It would go something like this: ‘The world is a narrow bridge, and the most important thing is not to be afraid.’”
Murphy and Eva both repeat this very slowly. Eva says, “That’s lovely.” Satan nods. “Just repeat it to yourself when things are bad. You could try different translations too. ‘Do not make yourself afraid, the whole world is a narrow bridge.’
The point is this life we’re living—this world we inhabit—is a scary place. If you peer over the side of a narrow bridge, you can lose your heart to continue. You freeze up. You sit down. So too with life. If we think too much about the journey we have to make, the one that begins with the trauma of birth and ends with the tragedy of death, the one that is so perilous and unpredictable, we’ll never make it.
The important thing is that we are not afraid. That we don’t overthink things. That we don’t give way to fear, as the Stoics tell us over and over again. Just repeat it to yourself—The world is a narrow bridge and I will not be afraid—and keep going. Like the thousands of generations who have come before you.
“Never try to be better than someone else. Learn from others, and try to be the best you can be. Success is the by-product of that preparation.” - John R. Wooden
Do you compare yourself to other and become jealous about what they have?
“Sympathy is never wasted except when you give it to yourself.” - John W. Raper
Do you empathize with others but never yourself?
"Money alone is only a mean; it presupposes a man to use it. The rich man can go where he pleases, but perhaps please himself nowhere. He can buy a library or visit the whole world, but perhaps has neither patience to read nor intelligence to see. The purse may be full and the heart empty. He may have gained the world and lost himself; and with all his wealth around him...he may live as blank a life as any tattered ditcher."
Robert Louis Stevenson - Scottish Novelist and Travel Writer
“Between individuals, as between nations, peace means respect for the rights of others.” - Benito Juarez
What prejudices do you hold that prevent you from knowing and respecting others?
“Anybody can point out problems, but the valuable person is the one who finds the solutions and accepts the responsibility to implement the solutions.” - Ronn Wyckoff
Do you take responsibility for implementing the solutions to your problems?
“Thinking is the hardest work there is, which is probably the reason why so few engage in it.” - Henry Ford
Where are your thoughts leading you?
“A lie doesn’t become truth, wrong doesn’t become right, and evil doesn’t become good, just because it’s accepted by a majority.” - Booker T. Washington
How do you define and live your truth?
“The reason most people don’t reach their goals is they never define them, or ever seriously consider them as believable or achievable. Winners can tell you where they are going, what they plan to do along the way, and who will be sharing the adventure with them.” - Dennis Waitley
Can you tell people where you are going when it comes to your goals?
Eighteen Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence
Number 1: You have a robust emotional vocabulary. People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so.
Number 2: You’re curious about people. Emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them.
Number 3: You embrace change. Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting.
Number 4: You know your strengths and weaknesses. Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand emotions; they know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at.
Number 5: You’re a good judge of character. Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people.
Number 6: You are difficult to offend. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open minded, which creates pretty thick skin.
Number 7: You know how to say no (to yourself and others). Emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control. You delay gratification, and you avoid impulse action.
Number 8: You let go of mistakes. Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.
Number 9: You give and expect nothing in return. Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking of others.
Number 10: You don’t hold grudges. Holding onto a grudge means you’re holding onto stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs.
Number 11: You neutralize toxic people. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check.
Number 12: You don’t seek perfection. Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know it doesn’t exist.
Number 13: You appreciate what you have. Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it also improves your mood because it reduces stress hormones.
Number 14: You disconnect. Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep stress under control and to live in the moment.
Number 15: You limit your caffeine intake. Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline. High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.
Number 16: You get enough sleep. High-EQ individuals know that their self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when they don’t get enough – or the right kind – of sleep.
Number 17: You stop negative self-talk in its tracks. Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from the facts in order to escape the cycle of negativity and move toward a positive, new outlook.
Number 18: You won’t let anyone limit your joy. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinion or snide remarks take that away from them.
From the article: 18 Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence by Dr. Travis Bradberry – March 3, 2016 – SUCCESS Magazine
“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.” - Helen Keller
What is your heart telling you about realizing your dreams?
“The pain of parting is nothing to the joy of meeting again.” - Charles Dickens
Who are you waiting to reconnect with?
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